Many of the hot topics in eating disorder recovery—health at every size, food neutrality, whether some foods are manufactured with addictive qualities—extend beyond eating disorders and to the messages we hold and teach our children about food and bodies. In this episode I am joined by Katie Gilder and we talk about how we address […]
Periodically, I hear someone describe a past therapist, a particular therapy modality, or a treatment center as “just in it for the money.” On the flip side, I’ve had many conversations with therapists and other mental health providers about how hard it is to hold fees, guilt for raising fees, strain strain related to enforcing
By Elka Cubacub, LCSW I’ve been hearing a version of this from a lot of clients lately: “I’ve been to therapy before, but at a certain point it felt like the therapist was just telling me to do the same things I was already telling myself.” Most people who seek therapy are fairly intelligent adults.
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In this episode, I discuss why this podcast has no content rules and how I address information that might be triggering to the listener. I also do a deep dive into the question, can words cause harm? More on Elka: https://cubacubcounseling.com/ Elka’s book, Binge Eating Demystified https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FD493WZ3
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How do we know what is real? There is a growing number of treatment modalities, each with its own acronyms and catchphrases. There is also a large diversity of opinions around issues related to food, health, and eating disorder recovery. How do we know what treatment approach to follow? In this dialogue, I have two
When we argue with other clinicians about treatment-related issues, it’s natural to focus almost exclusively on content. And when it doesn’t go well, we often attribute that to the wrongness of the other person’s position. We might accuse them of perpetuating harm, or being small-minded or out of touch with reality or science. I would
By Elka Cubacub, LCSW Does my therapist see a therapist? I have been asked this question from multiple angles. “How can someone who’s got their own issues help me with my issues?” “If my therapist is in therapy, I’d rather not know about it”. Or … “How can someone who has never been through what
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It can be taken for granted that there are many non-disordered ways of eating. In addition to food preferences and aversions, allergies, food-sensitivities, and body composition, our food choices can be also shaped by spiritual, cultural, and ethical values. In eating disorder treatment, this simple truth becomes much more complicated for two reasons: Firstly, because
By Elka Cubacub, LCSW I remember the first fight I had with my husband. I had baked a batch of cookies and after he tasted one, I asked, “How do you like it?” He replied, “Oh, it’s kind of mushy.” Taken aback, I corrected him, “They’re supposed to be chewy.” He responded, “I said mushy,
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The therapeutic relationship is, in some ways, a bizarre one. On one hand, it’s a meeting between two people, a space where you share so much of yourself, your deeper emotions, and experiences. And at the same time, there are very clear and firm ethical and professional boundaries. Human nature alongside the depth and vulnerability