EDeology Podcast: Attraction, love, and erotic feelings in the therapeutic relationship with Rebecca Prolman, LMFT

The therapeutic relationship is, in some ways, a bizarre one. On one hand, it’s a meeting between two people, a space where you share so much of yourself, your deeper emotions, and experiences. And at the same time, there are very clear and firm ethical and professional boundaries.

Human nature alongside the depth and vulnerability of the therapeutic space can create the conditions for attraction, love, and romantic or sexual feelings. And because these feelings cannot ethically evolve into a personal relationship, they can feel confusing and unspeakable.

In this episode, Rebecca Prolman shares her own story of falling in love with her therapist and navigating a relationship that was both healing and incredibly messy. She also talks about how she responds now, as a therapist herself, when a client shares that they’re attracted to her. We talk about making these kinds of feelings speakable, exploring the meaning behind romantic and sexual fantasy, and maintaining the personal and professional boundaries that make therapy safe.

Rebecca Prolman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in healing childhood attachment wounds, complex trauma, and eating disorders. She also offers affordable, self guided courses to support deep, lasting healing at rebeccaprolman.com. 

More on Rebecca: https://www.rebeccaprolman.com/

Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube at @rebeccaprolman.

More on Elka: https://cubacubcounseling.com/ 

Elka’s book, Binge Eating Demystified https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FD493WZ3

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